My Grandma Rise
and Grandpa Carlos are finally together again – 33 years after Grandpa Carlos
died at the young age of 61.
The remains of
my paternal grandfather, Carlos Gallegos, were reinterred with military honors
on Friday during a solemn ceremony at the National Cemetery in Santa Fe. His
casket was exhumed from the cemetery in Las Vegas, where it remained since he
died in 1980, and taken to the National Cemetery. The casket was buried in the
same grave that my grandmother, Grucella Gallegos, was placed nearly two months
ago.
I’m not sure how
to describe my feelings about the experience. It was strange to be present for
two burials of my Grandpa some 33 years apart. I was just 11 years old the
first time, and his death was sort of locked in my memory, or perhaps my conscience,
as one of several losses in a few short years. I lost two great-grandparents
and a childhood friend, in addition to Grandpa Carlos, to death in a three-year
period. One memory about my Grandpa’s funeral in 1980 is that I turned down the
idea of playing Taps on my trumpet. I was too scared to do it.
The ceremony on
Friday was nice. My Bustamante cousins, my brother and I served as pallbearers,
just as we did in April for Grandma Rise’s funeral. Standing behind the
flag-draped casket, I thought about the fact that two of my cousins weren’t
even born back in 1980 when Grandpa Carlos died. One was born shortly after,
and appropriately named Carlos after the grandfather he never got to meet. I
wondered what he was thinking about during Friday’s ceremony. Same thing with
his younger brother, Mark, who was born after Grandpa died, and to some extent,
their brother, Dion who was probably too young to remember much about his
grandfather.
Carlos Gallegos |
But the two
oldest of the Bustamante boys, Dale and David, were very close in age to my
brother, Jon, and me – and we all have our memories of Grandpa, I’m sure. I
wish I could remember more about him. But I definitely remember him wearing a
white t-shirt and sipping a can of Schlitz beer – either on his couch or on the
chair on the front porch. I remember watching “professional” wrestling with him
on Saturday or Sunday mornings – I can’t remember which. I remember sleeping in
the basement of their home on 8th Street and waking to the smell of
Grandma’s eggs and bacon. Whether it was breakfast or meat and gravy and corn for
dinner, I always remember Grandpa Carlos telling me to be sure to finish the
plate, cleaning it up with bread or tortilla. I tell the same thing to my
daughters, often reminding them that that’s what Grandpa Carlos would say.
Las Vegas Cemetery 2012 |
Las Vegas Cemetery 2012 |
Every time I
asked Grandma Rise about Grandpa’s time in the military, she always reminded
me, proudly, that he was an officer – 1st Lieutenant in the United
States Army.
Rest In Peace,
Lt. Gallegos.